When you fall in love you rarely think about the quarrels you will have in the future. Once the honeymoon faze passes you have to learn how to keep the romance, communication, and understanding. It can often times be difficult because you feel like you have “fallen out of love” when these times emerge. That is simply not the case (most of the time). Marriage is hard work.
1. Keep the romance alive. Just because the “honeymoon faze” may have passed doesn’t mean you no longer have to impress your partner. You should work at making your partner feel special everyday. Whether that means making them breakfast, writing them a cute note, or even just asking them how their day went will make a huge difference.
Also pay attention to their love language. Even though we may feel affection one way, doesn’t mean that’s the way our partner likes to be shown affection. For example: your partner may really enjoy physical touch, but you enjoy quality time. Make sure that you give your loved one the physical attention that they seek.
2. Communication is key in any relationship. Without it you get nowhere. More times than not the one you love will communicate differently than you. One of you may be passive, while the other is outspoken. In order to make this work you have to come to common ground. If you need space during an argument but your partner likes to work it out try giving yourself a few minutes. Then come back and try talking it out to make them feel at ease.
Also let them know when something is frustrating you. No one can read minds and it is unfair to expect your partner to know exactly how your feeling unless you directly tell them. But do not tell them in a condescending way. Just express how you feel in the kindest way possible.
3. Have patience with your partner and try to understand where they are coming from. Always listen to what they are saying, even when it may be aggravating. It is important to be heard in a relationship. If one party feels drowned out then it will not work.
Also understand that you will both make mistakes. And when the person you love makes miss steps do not push away. Explain your feelings about the situation and show them your support. In order to move forward you cannot have unrealistic expectations about relationships. Everybody stumbles at some point. It’s about how they choose to move forward that matters most.
While relationships take dedication, do not continue relationships that are abusive. What really matters at the end of the days is the safety and happiness of both parties. But if your relationship has only lost is luster, it is very possible to get it back. Remember that if you can make it through the hard times together, you will come out even stronger at the end.